What if Your Schedule Isn’t The Problem? How To Actually Expand Your Capacity
Aug 23, 2026
“I want to live a big life, a full life. I need to be able to do it. But you can’t put a very high voltage through a light bulb that can’t handle it… You need to find the right frequency.
Somehow, I need to expand what I can handle.”
No, these are not my words. This was a client of mine just a few months ago.
But what she’s describing here, I believe, is a truth that most of us can relate to…
The times in life when you need to Expand Your Capacity but — however capable you are — it’s impossible to do so.
Now, before we dive in (and I can’t wait for you to hear this story) you should know that my client is ultra-competent, and ultra-accomplished. She’d landed her dream job at an Ivy-league school. She was a straight-A student herself, and came from a home of overachievers.
It’s a cliche but true: on paper she had it all. And yet she couldn’t muster up the energy or the impetus to get a handle on her life. And it was frightening her.
Rebecca (as we’ll call her) says…
“I guess I was burnt out. I felt like I was too young to be burnt out, but I couldn’t sleep. I procrastinated. I had a resistance to structure, and the basic building blocks of life: schedule, routine, sleeping on time, eating on time, getting work done. It was all so, so hard for me.
“I’d worked with a therapist before, but had a constant sense of being pushed in a direction that felt misaligned. I thought maybe that was part of growing, or stepping into areas of discomfort and expanding myself… I was told to stick to a regime but it just didn’t work. I was learning a lot of strategies, but couldn’t sustain them; in fact, I’d feel high after a session one day, and then totally back to square one the next.
“If I did what I needed to do and accomplish my work, I couldn’t move for a day or two. I just wanted to scroll and rest.
“I couldn’t even access creativity because I was constantly overriding what was happening in my body.”
Now, what Rebecca has chosen to share is completely, 100% accurate.
Because it’s true: when it comes to “handling more” we’re often told what strategy to try, or schedule to follow without a single thought for the individual underneath. But productivity isn’t about simple time management, “eating the frog” — or any other hack you might have tried…
And it’s never about how capable you are.
No, real productivity, or what I call Expanding Your Capacity, is about peeling back the layers of your life to the very deepest level. It’s about uncovering what the root is for you, and what will help YOU get things done, without wasting time on anything else.
And that means…
Having a larger window of tolerance within your nervous system before you’re triggered into survival response.
Recognizing what your body actually needs and learning how to listen to it, so that you can support your own growth.
Understanding the language of your own body, your emotions, and how to be with yourself, so that you can become a more highly developed, capable person.
It’s literally human development, but we’ve never been taught it.
Now, how we do this is multifaceted.
We might uncover…
What’s your history? What are your origins? How did you get patterned?
What are your underlying needs that haven’t been met? What’s making you speak through frustration, overwhelm, anger, or exhaustion?
What’s making you feel scrambled all the time?
For Rebecca the answer was deep-rooted.
Growing up she’d learned to freeze her authentic self; to overly scan and accommodate and appease people around her, so that all that was demanded of her became a habit.
But when you have to be so attuned to other people, you don’t even know what your own needs are anymore.
She says…
“I had no attunement to my own body: I wasn’t paying attention when I was tired or depleted. I was completely overextended. I let other people extract a lot from me, not out of malicious intent, but because they themselves didn’t know any other way to be.”
And now?
“Naomi connected me back to myself so that I could be the one who tends to myself, and meets all my own needs.
“She helps me identify and remove my own obstacles (which sounds small but I think most blocks are invisible to people).
“And she’s helped me tether this experience to my life, so that even if there are many things to do, where I once might have been overwhelmed, I’m able to handle it, enjoy it, and live a big, full life.”
I can’t tell you how much joy this gives me.
It truly is the work I live for.
But, like that lightbulb, it’s no surprise that Rebecca is illuminated now — she absolutely pulses with energy! Because our work together helped her to realize one more fundamental truth:
This process is about understanding how life really works…
And masterfully weaving it into you.
Love and Blessings
P.S. If Rebecca’s story struck a chord — if you’d love to Expand Your Capacity too — I have a very special offer for you.
My ½ day Clarity Intensive is the quickest, most affordable way to work together, in private, without the monthly commitment of my 1:1 work.
